Marriage Provides Children with Balance

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Surrogacy is on the rise, even accepted and practiced by those who should know better. Father, forgive them; they know not what they do. But we can all learn, can all admit that we have been going in the wrong direction. And so it is with surrogacy, which involves wombs for rent, a practice largely employed by the wealthy, involving women whose bodies are exploited, and whose psyches are often damaged permanently. So also the child: conceived, born, and raised in a state of purposeful disorientation.

We might say that the Obergefell mindset put surrogacy into hyperdrive. Gay married men tend to be financially well off, among the highest earners, at least as an overall average. But then they want children. The problem, at least as they might see it, remains that a child comes only from the union of one man and one woman. So, surrogacy is the answer. The questions then become, “Where do you get the eggs to go with the sperm? And whose womb will bear the child?”

‍We should not be fooled by the propaganda, the pictures of the likes of Pete Buttigieg, his "husband," and adorable twins (who I think were adopted). It is a great sorrow when a child is left without a mom or dad. The practice of surrogacy intentionally leaves a child without a mom. But the details reveal the fullness of the cruelty. Of course, the poorer woman, whose womb is let out for hire, is exploited. We know that a child in the womb bonds with her mother. The child begins life in the most intimate of relationships, protected and fed by mom, always with her. At birth, the mother, who says she is fine with the process, often undergoes great grief, a longing sadness, having to give away the child she bore. Or else she grows cold.

A dad is a blessing. Two dads and no mom is a daily nightmare. Marriage provides the child with balance, like a recipe that includes sweet and savory, what a man has to offer, and what only a woman can bring to the family in helpful portions. Gay marriage, whether two moms or two dads is an overload, an imbalance. Too much of one, and nothing of the other. There is a reason why we are drawn to things natural, why we don't tinker with what is good and right. Who among us would look back on life, and think, "Wouldn't it be better to be raised without a mom or dad?" But that is baked into the process, is not an accident, but a feature of gay marriage, and its employment of surrogacy.

‍ The pro-life community must rise to this challenge, pastors as well. We have a lot of work to do, and that means learning and then teaching. But this stuff is not going away. Surrogacy is eating at our humanity. To pretend otherwise is to put our heads in the sand. And now we may begin by not talking about marriage for what it is, not what we wish it were. And we can begin to rediscover that marriage exists precisely for children, children who have a reasonable right to a mom and dad.

Dr. Peter Scaer is chairman and professor of Exegetical Theology and director of the M.A. program at Concordia Theological Seminary, Fort Wayne, Ind.

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