Gay Marriage and the Nanny State

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A good friend suggests that putting an end to gay marriage would be just another example of the nanny state, by which he means government overreach and intrusion into the private lives of our people. It's a cry for freedom from a libertarian point of view. In other news, I see that just 6 percent of Gen Z women think that personal success includes having children. Add to that the fact that a quarter of all children live in a home without dad. Add to that the fact that Senator Kaine, representative of many on the left, said that our rights come not from God but from government. 

What to make of it? This summer I read The Communist Manifesto for the first time. Marxism is predicated on the idea that the state should have precedence over the family. Marxists see strong families as an obstacle to the state's influence. Homes are an example of private property, and family wealth promoted the practice of inheritance and intergenerational wealth. A traditional conservative says that God comes first, then family, and then the nation, which is not to be equated with the government. The Marxist seeks to put an end to all of that.

Politically, we know this is working. Marxism has promoted groups whose lives are dependent on the government, and whose ideology is fueled by grievance. A Marxist may well become mayor of New York City and is especially popular among young people, most often single who are far from owning private property. And then there's a simple fact that single women are one of the Democrat party's strongest and most reliable voting blocs, and this is by design. Marxists know that the best path control is the destruction of the family, most especially the dissolution of marriage and the removal of fathers from the house. In a home, in a society of family, the social safety net can be found in father who has the means and motive, and add to that a family structure that extends who grandparents who can help, aunts and uncles and cousins who can step in, offer connection.

In a world of broken families, what is left? With no dad in the home, no link to grandparents, what is a young person to do? Where can he turn? Now, that is where the nanny state steps in. The nanny state rises as the family falls. The nanny moves into the picture where there is no dad, where there is no home, no connections, no sense of security. The nanny promises the security of healthcare, of rent control apartments. Granted, the promise is of low level sustenance, but it's something.

Is it any wonder the Left told the young to rebel against their parents in the 60s? Woodstock promises free love and liberation, and it left a generation untethered, but all the more chained to a central government that promised to care. Is it any wonder that the left pushed gay marriage, which aimed to wholly redefine and undefine marriage. We know what no-fault divorce has done to children who now see government as their only sure hope. Gay marriage, which is no marriage at all, is a sinister and cynical plan to destroy the family altogether, purposefully leaving children without a mom or dad. Real marriage establishes a network, uniting a child to mom and dad, grandparents often on two sides, aunts, uncles and cousins. Gay marriage cynically turns children into commodities. A sacred obligation turns into a kind of ownership, and children are commodified.

What we do know is that children without dad at home face much great odds of thriving academically, financially, emotionally, have much greater rates of finding themselves in state institutions, or imprisonment, or, the way things are going, experiencing cashless bail. Gay marriage doubles down on these problems. Marriage is a personal, but not private matter. That's why we see marriage and divorce notes in the newspaper, and why the courthouse has records. Marriage exists, as an institution, precisely for the raising of children. There would be no need for the government to recognize marriage at all except for the biological fact that every child has a biological mother and father, along with a reasonable God-given right to be raised by them as mom and dad.

The funny thing, though, is this: Should Communism win the day, gay marriage and the like will likely be over. The Soviet Union attempted collective parenting, but found that for efficiency, they needed families. China likewise has absolutely no gay marriage. That is to say, the dissolution and break down of the family is necessary to take down the freedom of the Republic. But once Communism wins the day, the family becomes useful, but only in a functional way. In the Communist system, parents do not transmit their values to their children, but simply raise children for the state. Indoctrinated children are taught to turn in and betray straying parents, who know to keep their divergent views silent. The family, rather than a priority, becomes a cog in the state machine. The order is reversed. We say that the government exists for the sake of the family, while Communists, once established, use the family for the sake of the state.

All of this is to say, if you want a nanny state, gay marriage is the way to go. If you want a constitutional republic, one governed by natural law rather than the whims of our leaders, fight for the foundation. So, of course, we should say, put first things first and go to church, the other great obstacle to Marxist rule. And don't be bashful or fooled. Restore the family, based on natural law, on things good and true, which brings a child into a family, establishes a culture in which family is central, and a great bulwark against the nanny state.

 

The Rev. Dr. Peter Scaer is a professor at Concordia Theological Seminary, Fort Wayne, Ind.

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_______ Nationalism

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D.C. We have seen religious liberties for Christians now protected and defended rather than threatened and litigated. We have seen other constitutional protections undergirded as well. But sadly, we are also seeing a growing callousness to the issue of life, not just from a select group of secular elites, but even from American citizens who are religious. The Pew Research Center shows that while conservative Christians still see abortion as an illegal action against innocent Children in the womb, other Christians are beginning to support the “abortion in all circumstances” mantra in pop culture.  The abortion euphemistic cover of a constitutional “right to choose” has been properly litigated, but now the deceptive phrases of “reproductive freedom” and “women’s health care” has many callously embracing the killing on demand of innocent children right up to the moment of birth. Politicians and citizens alike are growing in their support of the outrageous notion that a child can be aborted up to the time of birth and even after it is born, as long as the mother and the doctor decide.

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A blessed Good Friday, Easter morning to you all!!

One of my favorite recurring guests on the “Liberty Action Alert” is Cal Thomas. He is a clear-thinking, fearlessly-engaging, Christian voice in the public square. His columns and commentary always give “public” Christians a lot to think about as they try to live out their faith lives in the particular vocations in the world in which they serve. He wrote this Good Friday piece about 3 years ago,

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I recently began a wedding sermon addressing the couple, “Your marriage is going to be tough! It’s going to be filled with conflict and suffering and sorrow and pain. And, if you do it right, you’ll eventually get to watch each other get old, have more pain, carry more grief and watch each other move toward death.”

Their eyes got as big as saucers, and their huge smiles started to waver. I paused for a bit with a very serious look on my face, because it is all, sadly, true. I then continued, “However, you’re about to enter one of the most beautiful experiences you can ever have on earth. You’ll have glimpses of heaven that most will never see. You’ll delight in the love of Jesus overflowing to you from your spouse. When you fall, you’ll have each other to speak words of forgiveness and renewal. Your joy will grow and overflow to everyone. And I can say this with certainty.”

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